My daughter is enceinte. At 11 weeks, she is surprised there is a small bump. Oh, honey.
Grand-baby (GB) is due June 30th, but it is likely GB will be two weeks early -- just runs in the family.
And, really GB, I do not want to know whether you are a boy or a girl -- mystery and waiting for delightful surprises are important in life. Unfortunately, your Mom and Dad have something else in mind -- "how will we be able to plan if we don't know the baby's gender?" Hmm -- a few millennia of parents must not have had very strong executive functioning skills and it is wonder the human race has made it this far.
GB, I think we are going to have some wonderfully silly and rich conversations when you do make your grand entrance!
What in the world does it mean to be a grandmother? My daughters are grown, educated, married -- I've just figure out how to be a Mom for goodness sake!
Like any rational woman, it is time to take it to Google to discover what's out there for Grand-meres -- with so many amazing, beautiful, cool, hilarious sites for today's Mothers and Fathers you'd think there would be just as many similar sites for grandparents. Someone willing and able to assist with humor and panache in this transition. Or a site which nails it visually for what it means to Nonna-it with grace, love, silliness, and intelligence.
Wrong. Well, maybe wrong.
There are plenty of self-help, how-to-grandparent, you-can-do-this, join the group, and traveling-grandparent sites, but these really don't fit.
GB, I think I want a diary. To hear someone else's heart as they've navigated what really does appear a particularly daunting transformation. Where do I look for the joys and the pitfalls? How do I keep my sense of self when all the grand-parenting sites or books have pictures of old people on them!?
Yes, GB, I do understand you and your Mom are doing most of the work -- okay, all of the work -- right now, and that this whole pregnancy thing is not about me being a grandma. But, really. I am your Nonna and a little empathy on your part would not be too difficult (hey, I'm pretty good at the guilt thing -- the transformation has begun!)
I'm just going to have to build or create something that defines Nonna-ing.